dont u get any help off anyone -meaning services ? anyway theyget funny as they get older -my foster mums mum died this year with some illness or other and lost her mind and was like waking a t 5am demanding this n that, would regularly frget things. drov my mum up the wall as it can be demanding looking after sick people -i get grief off my kids -i wouldnt like imagine how much work it is. but ya know they are just reeling off and she will need you.(u could always pretend to be not there one day and see how she copes