wow. god this post just made me so sad. if i have any kids i can see my child talking this way about my sister. i can't imagine my kids going through something like that. me...i'm used to it. it's part of my life and i've always lived it. always been aware of the fact that one day i might wake up with no sister...maybe even no mother. mom's an alcoholic and sis is covered in scars. big ones. HUGE ones up and down her arms and legs. she's been in some serious fights with her partner. she broke his toe, nearly burned him with tea, nearly got him killed when some guys came to her "rescue". he's still there. sometimes i don't know why either, but most times i know it's because they love each other so intensly that no one else understands. she's on and off meds as well and that's not easy on the rest of us either. not only do we have to watch her suffer periodically, but we have to keep a very watchful eye on her moodswings and put up with bad behavior. well, i don't think i'm that great a sister, because i'm struggling to do even the simplest things with her. i think my life is more important to me....actually rigids life is and so trips to the zoo, disneyland, the park, beach and family events are being kept to a very low minimum. her kids b-days and partners b-day...maybe christmas. sometimes the best thing you can do is step away. always be there just...you know.